I haven't had the pleasure of using my Living Urn yet, as I bought it for myself. It's comforting for me to know that, when the time comes, my son won't have to wonder what to do or what I want. I kind of display my urn, and refer to it as my casket. Everyone important to me knows where it is and what to do with it. It has been suggested to me that I let people write on it, kind of like a living eulogy. I'm considering this, but haven't decided yet. By next year, I plan to have all of my funeral and cremation services planned and paid for, so when I do go (hopefully many years from now) my son can concentrate on missing me and not have to worry about all the other details. Plus: I'm going to be a tree! How cool is that to say?